Is it time to get back to the basics? Outside the house is good fun, and exercise.

It came to me today, that there is a need to make a choice about keeping the kids busy. Don’t get me wrong, we’re all busy in my family, but each of us is what society may call “obese.”I’ll admit we’ve all got to push away from the table, and get outside to exercise, or just explore, instead of just staying home, watching television, playing with the mobile telephones, or trying to arrange a date via online chat rooms.

It’s easy to get out of shape, and let yourself go, or forget to remember, that life is worth living, and exploring new things, people, and challenges. However, l living in the age of convenience, you can have ingredients just by picking up the telephone, or dinner can be prepared, already cooked by 6:00pm. There isn’t a need to go shopping, when services deliver anything, almost, anytime, to your door,!  This is most certainly a convenience for many of us, and I’ll admit, I love to order in, but my question again, “is it time to get back to the basics?”

How much is too much, and what are we robbing our kids of when we order in, or grab take out seven days a week? And of course, there is that other major issue, many moms, and families have to tackle – most of the children do not have a need to go outside and “play” or “socialize” with other kids, because of all of the electronic games, and devises at home. Could it appear “normal” to simply go to work or school, order in or grab take out, and then resume home to plug in, and tune out?

My question to you, “Is it time to get back to the basics?” I remember a time when I knew everyone on my block, because we were told to go outside and “play.” Today, I rarely see kids outside, not even walking their dogs. Is this normal? Are we helping our kids by keeping them from stretching themselves, and learning how to meet other kids, do chores, do some push ups, or simply just go out and “play?” Would you consider yourself overprotective, controlling, or just simply creating a nice little cozy, and convenient environment to avoid your child/children from having to “want for anything?”

I look forward to hearing from you!





Real Talk: A parents paradise to explore.

I often find that my work in the kitchen helps to open up conversation.  Teenagers in my world are not the easiest to connect with.  Many are distracted with the Youtube, Xbox, and everything in between. What I’ve found, and now I’m using it as my special recipe to discuss homework, peers, goals, conflict resolution, and every teenage topic in between.

It’s been a real challenge getting to this point, but I now know that the kitchen is a place for real talk. It took much to long to figure it out, but finally, it’s a paradise I plan to continue to explore. What’s your secret recipe that gets your teenager, child, or children to TALK.  Communication is important, and remember, often times our child/children really need us to LISTEN instead of giving orders. 



What’s your tip for getting it all done: 2 tips on staying motivated!

Prior to starting a family, I led a busy life. Once I decided to start my family, my life got complicated, crowded, and days started flying by.  Fast forward, it’s been 12 years, and truth be told, my life is just as complicated, crowded, and days are still flying by. I feel like I need twenty-five hours, and eight-days a week to really get things done, especially, those things for ME!

Being productive isn’t always easy, and I have felt like doing NOTHING plenty of times when a window opened up, and when those windows occurred to do nothing – that’s exactly what I did – NOTHING. I know – I’m only human! However, when it’s time to be productive, and there is absolutely no wiggle room, here are two quick foundation tips I use to stay motivated, be productive, and achieve whatever goal is at hand:

1. I read something inspirational: Reading is soothing to me when I have time. It’s usually nothing long, but rather short in nature, such as a favorite scripture, or a affirmation.  This works for me.

2. I recharge by going to the gym for fifteen minutes: This helps me to take my mind off of the issue, project or goal, and focus on me, and more importantly, it makes me feel better, especially when I work up a sweat.

What’s your answer to getting it all done?






Tackling the homework question: what would you do?

Earlier today one the school’s teacher’s emailed requesting a meeting.  I was grateful of her notifying me, and explaining that the work is getting harder, and more studying is necessary, if we are to expect good grades.

It’s a lot of work for this one subject, and the lessons are not on the G Suite of Google, like most of the other teacher’s lessons. In fact, there isn’t even a text book; only a workbook that is worked on, mostly in class.

Managing this work life balance is always challenging, mainly when the sports are more exciting around our home. My question is, how do you help a 12 year old with assignments, that you as a parent never see? Thankfully, there aren’t any failing grades, and I hope to keep it that way. I look forward to hearing your input.


Are you a tiger mom?

I think it’s safe to say that most parents want their kids to do well in school, right?  At the very least, we want our children to try hard to get good grades.  Well, yesterday, to my surprise, I learned that a 12 year old boy eagerly went home to share his grades with his mom, and he thought the 97/100% score would get a pat on the shoulder, at the very least.

To his surprise, and definitely mine, I was told that she smacked him in the face, and of course, this sent her son off feeling inadequate perhaps, or at the very least, unloved, maybe.  It’s a day later, and I’m still astounded every time I think of the incident. I have heard the term “Tiger” mom used in the community, and I always thought I understood how parents felt about keeping their children focused. However, after this story, I decided to google the actual definition:  Here’s what I found:

According to Wikipidia, “Tiger parenting is strict or demanding parenting. Tiger parents push and pressure their children to attaining high levels of academic achievement, using authoritarian parenting methods. The term was coined by Yale Law School professor Amy Chua in her 2011 memoir Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother.” This definition really brought it home for me, and made me really think about my parenting style, and even has me considering making some adjustments.  How do you feel about this subject?

Balancing growth: Are you a helicopter parent?

Do you remember when your baby grew into a toddler, and your toddler grew even more?  During the early stages, we made all of the decisions, and had the final word, but with growth comes opinions, observations, and questions.

How are you handling the growth stage?  Are you overprotective, or excessive with your control of your children’s lives, or are you trying to live through them? As you already know, today, according to Google, society describes this behavior as “a parent who takes overprotective or excessive interest in the life of their child or children.”

I’m really interested in finding out more about how you are handling this phase in your child’s or children’s lives. I’m even more excited to hear your stories about balancing growth, and letting go. These stories will be highlighted with profiles in my next series of books detailing the lives of women just like us who are balancing the work, life, family, and career issues. Let’s talk.

SBA State Tax Liens: Do they hinder approvals?

On most SBA applications there is a question asking applicants to state if they are delinquent on child support or federal and state taxes. If their reply is ‘YES’ the application may not be eligible for processing under certain SBA lenders policies and procedures.

Businesses may want to consider clearing up tax liens if you are more than 60 days delinquent on any obligation to pay taxes or child support arising under an administrative order, court order repayment agreement between the holder and a custodial parent, or repayment agreement between the holder and a state agency providing child support enforcement services.

Again, approvals or processing the loan request is always going to be subject to each bank’s Standard Operating Procedures. Additionally, businesses should know that these liens does not always show up on the credit report, it just depends on how far behind you are on paying, therefore being honest is best!

I hope this helps!