Archive for the ‘Lifestyle Management’ Category

5 common excuses moms use when halting the flexibility needed & deserved.

What’s really holding you up from reorganizing the way you do things?  You work hard to keep your household going, and you should take a moment, and pat yourself on the back, or better yet, carve out time to pamper yourself, however, DID YOU?

A closer look at excuses that prevent you from getting up and doing something different:

  1. “It’s too late to start a business because I have kids.”
  2. “I don’t have the money to pay for a babysitter.”
  3. “I don’t want to start something and get stuck.”
  4. “I don’t have any clothes that I can fit anymore or my wardrobe is out of date.”
  5. “My schedule does not allow me to take on any more responsibilities.”

I’m really interested in hearing any excuses you have rolled out in the past that keeps you obsessed on everyone else BUT YOU. As you know, if you are a constant reader of my blog, all stories matter – and I welcome the opportunity to hear your story.

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Harnessing Your Emotions: How do you control what you’re saying?

What kind of example are you setting: Have you ever thought about how your child or children look at you when you’re “handling conflicts, resolving problems, or correcting them?”

Here’s a quick story: One of my friends wasn’t happy with the performance of the child during a game. After the game, my friend forgot all about it was a TEAM sport, and as we all know TEAM WORK MAKES THE DREAM WORK. Needless to say, the team lost again. All season the team has not played well, nor have they won any of the games.

After the game, I was there, and emotions were flying, in fact, the criticism poured out, without any regard that the kid was a kid, and could only play their part of the team. I felt so badly for the child, and really hoped that the child didn’t take it all to heart, and digest the negative, harsh words, and sweeping generalizations.

This morning, while having coffee, I got the call addressing all of my concerns. My friend told me that they felt so guilty about hammering there child, and had cried after thinking about their outrage over the game, mainly when they had not been doing all they could to help with their child’s performance.

How do you harness your emotions? It’s so important to really think about how you’re going to say something, mainly when addressing a child. I told my friend to start waiting 24 hours before saying anything, or try to keep a positive mental attitude if the temptation or necessity for correction is there.  However, I told my friend to stop living through the child, and start letting the child have some fun with teammates, without the explosion.

What would you have told my friend? How would you have handled the situation? Have you ever lost control because you felt the child or children did not listen, and say things you regretted? I welcome the opportunity to hear your stories, observations, and suggestions – in my world all stories matter!

Growing pains: lighten your load

Multi-tasking is not a option for many of us – it’s a requirement. I’ve been on roller skates this entire week, dashing to this event, and finishing this work, grabbing dinner, and now we’re here at Thursday, and I’m still looking at about 100 tasks that need to be completed – TODAY.

Most of the moms I encounter daily are also running around trying to do it all, just because in many cases there isn’t anyone else to help or they don’t know how to find the help they need when they need it most.

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We look forward to hearing your story – in our world – all stories matter!

Family Time: How important is it to you?

Yesterday was a great time for us as a family. We decided to grab mom, and a few friends, and head to a game – just because we wanted to do something fun TOGETHER! The game was exciting, and the atmosphere was great. We were able to see many other families that seemed to be having just as much fun as we were. What was most exciting is that we were together, and away from the television, Xbox, and mobile telephones.

Our conversations were with one another, or the people beside us, or in front of us. It felt great talking to people in “REAL-TIME” instead of via text, instagram, facebook, or twitter. We all had time for each other, and we enjoyed the idea of socializing, even with people we didn’t even know.

When is the last time you just decided to go out just to be away from the normal routines, and enjoy the family? How important is carving out time for family fun to you – despite the fact that you’re probably just as pressed for time, as all of us? I welcome the opportunity to hear your story – in my world, all stories matter!

 

 

 

 

Hip Hip Hooray: The Government Re-opens for 3-weeks

The government reopens until February 15, 2019. It’s unclear if people will be stress-free, but I’m sure many federal workers, government contractors, and families are glad there is a promise to give all those impacted, including myself, as a government contractor, our back pay.  I’ll admit, I am totally looking forward to collecting those dollars, and putting them into my wallet, and holding on to them.

Not only people with government contracts, but, those employees of the federal government, all have to reexamine: how we work, what we spend, how much we spend, and ask, should we spend, before we spend. These last two weeks have been a true balancing act for people, families, and the country.

Thankfully, it’s a sign of relief for many in my family, which have been impacted, and strained financially. We all must stay focused simply because according to CNBC.com “President Trump announces [only] a short-term deal to reopen government.” What’s your plan for moving forward over the next three weeks? Are you planning to do something differently, or better, or do you think this furlough is just a hiccup that we can put behind us?

Government Furlough: How are you making out with your lifestyle management plans?

This week one of my entrepreneurial friends called me to vent. She is a developer, with tough deadlines, and a lot of red tape to work through while building multi-family housing projects. She noted that her project is being delayed due to permits, and contractors who are strapped for cash because of the furlough, thus delaying the performance on her project.

Clearly, this furlough is a lot to balance, mainly when you’re growing a small firm, developing housing and building projects, or just feeding a family. How are you balancing this lifestyle adjustment? I welcome the opportunity to hear your story.

 

Balancing Business and Parenting: Who needs me more?

Have you ever craved more time? Have you ever felt like there just arn’t enough hours or days in your week? Today is one of those kind of days for me.  I need to work all day, and night to meet upcoming deadlines, however, the time is better spent (I think) helping with homework, and upcoming tests.

It’s a tug-of-war in my home. Trying to do it all requires twenty-five hours (I think) and eight days (I think) a week. I often ask myself, “what’s really important here?” Is building a sustainable business with a solid succession plan a priority, or is being there to do homework, and be the designated driver to school, and to all of the after school activities the real goal?

I love working, and I love the family life, however, balancing each piece of my day is complicated, because both demand more time. Am I selfish to have snacks ready, and leave the kids to do their own homework, so I can continue working, or does it make more sense to stop what I’m doing, take the time to do everything else, until the point of exhaustion, and then just fall asleep until tomorrow.

Is guilt a part of your day when situations like these arise? What’s your remedy for this situation? I do look forward to hearing your story – it matters!