Harnessing Your Emotions: How do you control what you’re saying?

What kind of example are you setting: Have you ever thought about how your child or children look at you when you’re “handling conflicts, resolving problems, or correcting them?”

Here’s a quick story: One of my friends wasn’t happy with the performance of the child during a game. After the game, my friend forgot all about it was a TEAM sport, and as we all know TEAM WORK MAKES THE DREAM WORK. Needless to say, the team lost again. All season the team has not played well, nor have they won any of the games.

After the game, I was there, and emotions were flying, in fact, the criticism poured out, without any regard that the kid was a kid, and could only play their part of the team. I felt so badly for the child, and really hoped that the child didn’t take it all to heart, and digest the negative, harsh words, and sweeping generalizations.

This morning, while having coffee, I got the call addressing all of my concerns. My friend told me that they felt so guilty about hammering there child, and had cried after thinking about their outrage over the game, mainly when they had not been doing all they could to help with their child’s performance.

How do you harness your emotions? It’s so important to really think about how you’re going to say something, mainly when addressing a child. I told my friend to start waiting 24 hours before saying anything, or try to keep a positive mental attitude if the temptation or necessity for correction is there.  However, I told my friend to stop living through the child, and start letting the child have some fun with teammates, without the explosion.

What would you have told my friend? How would you have handled the situation? Have you ever lost control because you felt the child or children did not listen, and say things you regretted? I welcome the opportunity to hear your stories, observations, and suggestions – in my world all stories matter!

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